You’re never really ready for anything, unless you have to be…
Being ready. Isn’t this just the hottest topic at the moment. Well, at least for me! Are we ever really ready for anything? I have been contemplating this for the past few months, especially while being in the throes of launching this business, it has been the hottest topic between my ears. The talk of the town. You wouldn’t believe how many times I have heard ¨What are you doing with this?!¨, ¨Who do you think you are to think you know what you are talking about?¨, ¨You just aren’t ready…¨, ¨Who is even going to want to listen to you?!¨. And now you’ve met my ego. She can be a bit of a biatch sometimes, a bit of a buzz kill. But she ain´t all bad (I still love her), she does serve her purpose and is valued for what she does bring to the table, she just has a bit of tendency to try and run the show. She always wants her way. Fortunately enough, I have acquired enough self-wisdom to know when it is my ego talking and not my True Self. If I always listened to the ego, I would never get anything done…
The truth of the matter is, I don’t really feel like we are really ever ready for anything in life. Never 100%. There is always going to be that nagging voice in the back of your mind telling you why you can or cannot do something. If you just wait a little bit longer, then it will be better…you will be more prepared…you will have a better idea of what you want. You will know your direction. A better idea will come…or the timing will be better…or the situation…
Now the problem with listening to this nagging voice is that it will always keep chattering. Even when you have crossed off x, it will then harp on about y…it´s a never ending battle. So, the truth of the matter is that you really never are ready for anything when it comes to matters concerning the ego. This is why it is so important to learn how to drop down into your heart space and listen to another voice. The voice of your Soul, or Higher Self. This voice is much quieter than the nattering squeak of the ego, it is calmer and more serene. And because of this, it is much harder to hear.
This voice is your biggest fan, your loudest cheerleader, your rock and the one that you can always count on to always be on your team and aligned with your highest good. To be honest, it has only been in the past year or so that I have ever really been able to hear this voice. You won’t, unless you set an intention to. And when you can finally start listening to the knowing and ever-affirming voice of your Higher Self, you will finally start believing and fully trusting in your own capabilities…knowing that even though you may not have it all figured out right at this moment, that you are not alone, there is a helping hand that is guiding you. Your inner light. Your inner compass. It knows all of the answers. It knows your truth and your desires. All you have to do is listen when you feel like you need to be guided. And in all honesty, having it all figured out kinda takes the fun out of the whole ride, right?! If I knew where I would shake out all the time…life would be a little on the mundane side…and I like adventure! and surprises…
Not quite sure how to drop into your heart space and get out of your monkey mind? Here are four tried and true ways to overcome for the am i (really) ready?! jitters…
+ Drop down into your heart space. Don´t know how? Take five deep belly breaths and go within. Listen. What do you feel? Bring your awareness to your body. Can you feel pulses anywhere? Notice how your belly rises and falls with each inhalation and each exhalation. Notice which parts of your body feel tense. Send your breath there. Feel the tenseness dissipate with each cleansing breath. Now begin to interact with your Higher Self. Ask he or she questions. It can be about anything…and notice what you feel, hear, know or sense in response. Each of us are different in how we communicate with our Higher Selves. Some possess more of a clairvoyance (seeing pictures in their mind’s eye), others are clairaudient (can hear a voice or sound), some are more claircognizant (receive a thought, gut feeling or just a knowing) and others are more clairsentient (receive a feeling, whether it is a physical feeling, an emotion or a sense). The more you spend time connecting with your own inner guidance, the quicker and easier it will come (and sometimes to the point that you don’t even have to set aside quiet time, you’ll just receive it as needed!).
+ Use affirmations to affirm your capabilities. Affirmations are an incredibly powerful tool to train your brain. Even if you don´t believe it at first, keep saying it and you eventually will. Through training your subconscious (and conscious) you have the potential to create your reality. Human beings are far more powerful than they realise. So tap into utilising some of these incredible resources. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain! Drop down into your heart space and ask yourself what you need work with affirming. Be patient. It will come to you. Focus on that and then start writing out a few intentions for yourself. Recite them every morning upon waking, whenever you need extra strength throughout your day and before bed for an added top up. A few of my personal favourites, feel free to use them, but please don’t be afraid to make your own. You know what you need!
I am a powerful co-creator and divinely guided
I am limitless
I trust that the universe has my back
I have all that I need and all that I will ever need
I trust the divine timing of my life
+ Know that you do not have to be firm in the outcome of where you are going. You don’t have to have everything figured out. You definitely don’t need to know all the answers. That takes the fun out of the learning and the discovery process. We are here to learn. To grow. To develop. All you really need to know is a general direction, yeh maybe you will take a few unanticipated redirects, but that is part of the fun and the ride! When you open yourself up to the unplanned and unforeseen circumstances, you are more open to the blessings that the universe so kindly bestows upon us as a reward for stepping so fearlessly into the unknown and in alignment with our greatest calling. Believe that you live in an abundant and kind universe and you will be more than pleasantly surprised at the miracles that will come your way.
Miracles are a mindset.
+ Surrender. Now this might be a bit of a strange one to include as a way to become prepared for managing jitters related to readiness but it is probably the most important one. You need to let go. When I say let go, I don’t mean throw your hands up in the air and walk away. Nope, nope, nope. I mean set your intention of what you want, work towards it (you have to put in the effort…nobody will do your sit ups for you!) but let go of what the outcome will look like. Surrender to the process. Allow what comes your way, to come your way. Learn from your experiences. The peculiar thing about life is that ultimately, we do not always know what is for our own highest good. This is something that I have only just come to realise recently. I used to get so set and focussed on how I wanted things to look, that I would completely bypass the other blessings that were bestowed upon me because they weren’t packaged or delivered the way that I was anticipating. So I wasn´t open to receiving them. And because I didn´t have my arms open and ready, I didn´t give myself the opportunity to experience them the way that they were intended to have been. It is especially important for us to remember this when it comes to more of the negative outcomes. Surrendering involves an enormous amount of trust. Of blind faith. We have to trust in the divine timing of the universe and knowing that everything will be provided to us exactly when and how we need it. All we need to do is stay open, be grateful for all that we have and be willing to learn from everything and everyone that crosses our path.
So what are you waiting for?! To launch that career that you always dreamed of? Sell everything you own to embark on a trip of a lifetime? To ask that special someone out? To begin that course that you´ve always been dreaming of taking?
The time is now. Get after it. You are so ready gorgeous! I believe in you. You got this…go get ´em tigers
Thank you for being YOU!