Is your ego running the show?
We have literally thousands of thoughts that appear in our minds daily. The rational, the irrational, the completely absurd, the wait…am I insane?!, the brilliant, the lovely, the hilarious, all of our amazing ideas…and the list goes on…
Trying to control the Monkey Mind is something of a work in progress for me since committing to living my life in serving my Higher Purpose. In following your Higher Purpose, you are committed to trusting your Higher Self and the path that it has laid out for you. That path often contradicts and goes against how you used to live your life so at times can feel quite challenging to follow. It involves listening to a different voice, a quieter voice within, a voice that requires blind faith. And blind faith, without guarantees…now that´s a tough one…
Training your mind to be a nonjudgemental observer of your thoughts is key in taking back your power and being able to distinguish what is real (your Higher Self) and what is a complete fabrication of your mind (your Ego). You don’t want to control your thoughts, you want to allow them to flow to you just as they need to, but be detached enough to not allow them to take over or believe all of them (especially when the Ego invariably arrives with its drama party).
¨When you allow your Ego to control your thoughts, everything you believe becomes an illusion. Your Ego is your soul´s worst enemy.¨ – Rusty Eric
Ever wondered how to distinguish the difference between the Ego and your Higher Self? You have so many thoughts and so many feelings, but what is in line with what you truly desire? How do you know when you are being ruled by your fears (Ego)? How do you know when it is your Higher Self that is speaking to you or your Ego? Who is at the wheel? You want to learn how to make heart-centred decisions from your Higher Self and not based upon the fears and limiting beliefs of the Ego….but how?
The Ego – The Ego is rooted in survival and keeping safe. It operates based on fear. Yes, it has benefits. It often gets a bad rap, we really should love our Ego, but it is important to know that there is a time and place for the Ego to run the show. More often than not, if your life is not in imminent danger, then your Ego is better positioned to take a back seat and get as far away as possible from the wheel.
The Ego loves drama. It chatters all day long. It´s loud and boisterous and will often scream and shout as loud as it needs to in order to get your attention. Think of the Ego as being a young child throwing a tanty. It is authoritative. Wants to be heard now. It is demanding and will stop at nothing to get your attention. And because of this, the Ego has a tendency to drown out the voice of your Higher Self.
¨The Ego is not who you really are. The Ego is your self-image; it is your social mask; it is the role you are playing. Your social mask thrives on approval. It wants control, and it is sustained by power, because it lives in fear.¨ – Deepak Chopra
The Higher Self – Because the Higher Self is a calmer and more knowing voice, it is often much more difficult to hear. It comes in your stillness and when you are connected and centred within. The Higher Self is softer, patient and wise. Think of the Higher Self as being an all-knowing wise being (think Yoda-esque). Depending on the type of person that you are and the way that you experience your ¨super powers¨, you won’t necessarily hear the guidance from your Higher Self. Some people can audibly hear the voice of their Higher Self, while others connect with their Higher Selves in dreams (visually), or just a general sense of knowing (in thoughts) or feeling (in the body). When the Higher Self is felt, more often than not it is felt in the heart or stomach reason (versus the Ego, which is felt in the head).
In learning to become an observer of our thoughts, it can sometimes be a bit confusing to know when it is your Ego or Higher Self that is at the wheel. Here´s a little cheat sheet for you to help with beginning the practice of observing your own thoughts and helping you decipher who is running the show so that you can politely chuck the Ego to the back of the bus the next time it ferociously tries to take the wheel in attempt to take you at high speed on the expressway to Fearville.
¨You want to fall in love? Lose your fear. You want to stay in love? Lose your ego¨ – Unknown
I hope this has served you. Have any other hot tips for taming the Monkey Mind and hearing or distinguishing the voice of your Higher Self? I’d love to hear from you!
Thank you for being YOU!